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I Am Not Professional

Wed, 06 May 2026 11:25:02 GMT

My journey through service, self-respect, and unlearning the rules of professionalism

My entire working life, being “professional” was emphasized as the standard of behavior in the workplace. But the work environment spans a vast terrain of settings, each with its own unspoken rules of engagement.

Social and industry pressure pulled me into more affluent circles. Now that I think about it, it’s crazy how the status of people with money gets equated with quality. That isn’t necessarily true.

Over the years, I realized people are often buying exclusivity.

I found many of those environments to be reserved, stoic, and cold. The unspoken rule seemed to be: whatever and whenever for the person with the most money.

I could see the excitement in people’s eyes at the mere thought of being in the presence of someone famous, wealthy, or well-connected. It became an accepted social reality—people with money can get whatever they want. People with money are smarter. People with money deserve the best.

I met wonderful people in every setting, but those exclusive, wealthy environments weren’t a good fit for me.

What they did do was teach me about myself.

They exposed me to people I wouldn’t normally encounter.

They gave me perspective on how differently people can view the world—and others. I noticed how rarely people reach outside of their comfort zones.

How often people prefer to be around others who look, think, and live like them.

In professional settings like these, I was a servant. I was there to be at the beck and call of the person being served. In the eyes of some, my sole purpose was to serve—that was my identity.

In some cases, I was even made to feel “lucky” to serve this caliber of people.

There were also moments where people felt they shouldn’t have to pay me for my work.

And I’ll be honest—I got real unprofessional.

I called it out. I reminded them they were human just like me. I told them it was classless and in poor taste to behave that way.

And I always got paid.

More importantly, I kept my dignity and self-respect intact.

My experience in Thailand showed me something different: foundational respect.

It sounds like it should be common knowledge, but it’s actually a practice rooted in humanity. It doesn’t matter who you are or how much money you’re perceived to have.

Being human means being treated with respect. Service comes from the heart.

Because at the end of the day, most of us are part of the service industry in some way. As human beings, we are here to serve each other.

When I think about being “professional,” I think of something stiff, fixed, and performative. In my experience, it can feel insincere and transactional.

But when I think about being of service, I feel alive.

My eyes light up because I get to operate in purpose. I get to show up fully. I get to connect with another human being. I get to be curious about people’s wants and needs and find creative ways to meet them.

It becomes an opportunity to learn, engage, and solve real problems.

Warmth, eye contact, and genuine care create trust and safety.

It’s not about being professional.

It’s about being human.

Learning to Live from Within

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 09:43:35 GMT

“A personal reflection on truth, fear, and realignment.”

Lately, I’ve felt like I’m moving through an existential shift.

And strangely… it feels normal.

Maybe it’s the current state of the world. Maybe it’s where I am in my life. But something in me is asking deeper questions—questions that aren’t going away anytime soon.

I find myself reevaluating everything.

For most of my life, physical survival was never my primary concern. I’ve always been more focused on my mental and emotional well-being. But when I look deeper, I see something I hadn’t fully admitted before: I’ve been afraid to hold my own destiny in my hands.

There’s a part of me that wanted to be taken care of. To not have to worry. To sit in the passenger seat while someone else drove.

And the truth is—that kind of life offers comfort.

It allows you to blame others.
It creates an illusion of stability.
It protects you from risk.

But it also keeps you from yourself.

When I think about my business, I have to be honest—I didn’t always take it seriously.

At times, I treated it like a hobby. Something to fill in the gaps. Sometimes it even felt like an inconvenience.

But what I’ve come to realize is this:

I wasn’t uninspired because the work didn’t matter.
I was uninspired because I wasn’t fully connected to it.

What I truly crave is something deeper.

I want to believe in something bigger than money.
I want to feel moved by what I do.
I want to create spaces where people reconnect—with themselves and with others.

Because I’m tired of transactional interactions that feel empty.

Deep down, I know that’s not what life is meant to be.

We’re here to support each other.
To grow.
To evolve.
To become better—for ourselves and for the world around us.

Every morning feels like a reset.

A new opportunity to navigate my internal world.

And it’s not easy.

There’s so much noise—hypocrisy, greed, unrealistic standards. It’s easy to get pulled into it. To question yourself. To lose your center.

But I’m learning to protect something sacred:

My truth.

Even when the world distorts it.
Even when it feels uncomfortable.

I’m learning that self-worth and self-acceptance aren’t things I need to earn or buy.

And the more I see that clearly, the less interested I am in playing a game that was never designed for real fulfillment.

This is where my real struggle has always been.

Self-doubt.
Playing small.
Ignoring my instincts.

There’s a kind of quiet pain in that.

But there’s also awareness.

And awareness changes everything.

So now, instead of avoiding it, I’m choosing to face it.

To sit with the discomfort.
To move through the confusion.
To listen more closely to myself.

I believe most people are fighting this same internal battle.

We’re all navigating layers of conditioning—from family, culture, and society.

And somewhere beneath all of that… is who we really are.

Getting back to that place takes courage.

More courage than people talk about.

Because it means letting go.
Questioning everything.
Standing alone at times.

It can feel like a war within yourself.

And I understand now how much frustration—and even anger—can come from that.

But I’m tired of fighting.

I don’t want to live at war with myself anymore.

I want peace.

Real peace.

And I’m starting to understand that peace doesn’t come from controlling everything around me—

It comes from being aligned within.

Letting go of old identities, beliefs, and conditioning won’t be easy.

There will always be moments that test me.
People who reflect who I used to be.

But I’m learning this:

It takes courage to trust yourself.
To honor your inner voice.
To be led from within.

And that’s the path I’m choosing now.

Two Worlds

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 09:45:45 GMT

Holding Grief, Rage, and Love at the Same Time

My attention and focus have been on the events unfolding in the United States—and they have been for quite some time. Despite everything, I am American. I love my country, even though the relationship is complicated. I experienced a level of freedom that I once took for granted, and only with distance have I come to understand how unique that experience truly was. To witness such drastic changes in real time has been deeply unsettling—bordering on traumatic.

I have never visited the state of Minnesota. Now that I think about it, I’m not sure why, considering Illinois is just a stone’s throw away. When I thought of Minnesota, images of cold snowy winters, the Mall of America, and the home of Prince came to mind. What I did not fully grasp until recently was the strength, courage, and profound sense of community that has emerged so visibly in the face of tragedy.

There is always so much happening in America that it becomes difficult to keep up with the current outrage. But what has occurred in Minnesota in recent weeks has brought the country to its knees. Unarmed citizens—who posed no threat—were killed by law enforcement. This is not new. It is painfully common. The difference is the skin color of the victims.

What struck me most was the level of outrage and engagement. I have never witnessed anything like it. My emotions moved quickly—from deep sadness and empathy for the victims and their families to pure rage. Rage born from the endless violence that people of color—specifically Black and brown people—have endured for generations.

I think of the Native women and girls who go missing or are murdered with little public acknowledgment. I think of the brown children locked in cages at detention centers not long ago. I think of the countless Black lives lost, often reduced to headlines and used as rage bait. When I reflect on the role of the news today, it feels less like a source of information and more like a system that profits from trauma—turning human suffering into a product.

To say this is overwhelming would be an understatement. Witnessing the routine loss of human life forces a kind of numbness just to function. Accepting it as normal feels deeply disturbing. My decision to leave the United States was rooted in this reality. The killing of everyday citizens had become so routine it felt as ordinary as brushing my teeth each morning. Spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, I was deteriorating.

I was shown—explicitly and implicitly—that people who look like me do not matter. That our lives are disposable. That we must have done something to deserve violence. This narrative has long been woven into American history and cannot be denied.

In many ways, things have come full circle. Abuse, violence, and murder were tolerated when the victims were people of color. People of color move through life constantly defending their humanity while trying to assimilate into a culture that does not respect them. It is exhausting. It is disheartening. And it steals time—time that could be spent on growth, self-development, and meaningful contribution to community.

I remember feeling deep frustration with local politicians in my state, sensing that the constant bickering was never truly about the people. I knew I needed to fulfill parts of myself that had nothing to do with productivity, money, or survival.

What carries me through is the practice of humanity. Reflection. Awareness. Taking time to process how experiences shape my beliefs, thoughts, and the way I engage with myself and others. How I move through the world is a direct reflection of that inner work.

Holding My Humanity

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 06:22:43 GMT

A Reflection on Presence, Identity, and Staying Human

The start of a new year always symbolizes a clean slate—a fresh beginning. Each year tells a different story than the one before it. With every passing year, I hope to add more wisdom, more patience, and a deeper understanding of myself.

Over the last few years, I’ve grown more introspective than ever. Maybe it’s the intense anger that seems to permeate society. Perhaps it’s the consistent disrespect and dehumanization woven into everyday life. Or the mass shootings that occur with such frequency they’ve become disturbingly normalized. Living with all of this left me with no choice but to retreat inward. I could no longer trust the outside world. It became frightening and grotesque. The expectation to engage with all of this while wearing a smile feels psychopathic.

My move to Thailand has given me the space to see myself in ways I couldn’t before. I’ve realized that simply being a person—without performance, without explanation—offers a profound sense of comfort and freedom. It has allowed me to explore myself beyond the conditioning I’ve internalized.

There is the conditioning of being a Black American woman—the concept.

There is the conditioning of being Mysti—the person.

And then there is the enmeshment of the two, and the slow, honest work of discovering who I truly am beneath it all.

I’ve also come to understand why so many people resist these conversations. They require a radical shift in how we see the world—and in how we see ourselves within it. Once awareness arrives, the excuse of not knowing disappears. I can’t say I didn’t know—because now, I do.

Lately, I find myself wanting to escape more and more. And I’ll admit—it’s something I sometimes look forward to. A TV series. A two-hour doom scroll. I notice how much I enjoy where it takes me, because part of me doesn’t want to accept what’s happening in my reality.

Grounding myself in the present requires a significant amount of effort. Grounding demands honesty, integrity, compassion, and truth. It’s easy to see how that becomes challenging in the society we live in.

Still, I remain committed to my practice. Not because I expect a reward—but because it allows me to be present. I’m learning that all I can truly do is be here, now, and offer the best of myself in each moment.

There are endless distractions that drain our energy and pull us away from what actually matters. Taking agency over ourselves is essential. We are the captains of our minds and hearts. We choose how we steer our lives and which direction feels most aligned with our journey. The clarity that comes from presence—from simply being—offers a peace and faith that surpasses anything external.

What helps you stay connected to your humanity right now?

B.A.L.A.N.C.E: How To Live Fully in a Distracted World

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 13:54:26 GMT

Finding B.A.L.A.N.C.E in a World on Fire

The world feels like it’s burning—and most people are just trying to cope the best way they can. The constant stream of uncertainty, pain, and inhumanity we witness daily can make anyone want to hide, shut down, or look the other way. The truth is, many of us were never taught how to process emotions like grief, anger, or despair.

Since COVID, we’ve been riding a wave of global disconnection—a collective fatigue of the heart. It’s hard to wrap your mind around how easily empathy, compassion, and respect seem to have vanished from the conversation.

Living in Thailand has offered me a different rhythm—a different kind of humanity. Here, respect is not optional; it’s foundational. There is a calm, an ease, and a gentleness in how people interact that has reminded me what it means to be human. It’s been restorative, humbling, and invigorating. This experience inspired me to design a framework that keeps me grounded, intentional, and aligned with what truly matters.

I call it B.A.L.A.N.C.E.

It’s a holistic approach to living that helps us engage with life in ways that are fulfilling, centered, and sustainable—without letting any one area consume us.

B – Boundaries

Boundaries are not walls—they’re sacred spaces where self-respect lives. They remind us where we end and others begin. Learning to say “no,” to rest, to step away from overwork or overstimulation, is an act of deep love for ourselves.

I discovered most of my boundaries through discomfort. I used to see being uncomfortable as something to avoid. Now I see it as an invitation—a question asking, What is this teaching me about myself? Each time I set a healthy boundary, I reinforce my self-worth and expand my self-esteem.

A – Awareness

Awareness is the foundation of change. It’s the quiet pause between reaction and response. I grew up hearing adults speak harshly about others, and over time, I absorbed those patterns—judgment, comparison, and self-doubt. For years, I second-guessed my intuition.

It wasn’t until I began practicing self-reflection and mindfulness that I realized I had the power to unlearn those behaviors. Awareness helps us see where our habits stem from—and more importantly, gives us the power to choose differently.

L – Lifestyle Variety

Balance doesn’t mean doing everything equally—it means honoring what you need in each season. In the U.S., I was conditioned to make work the center of my life. But in Thailand, I’ve seen how deeply people value rest, community, and celebration. It’s a culture that understands life isn’t meant to be endured—it’s meant to be lived.

I’m still adjusting, but this change has been a gift. Incorporating play, movement, stillness, and connection into daily life keeps the spirit alive.

A – Accountability

Accountability is not about perfection—it’s about growth. We all need people who will be honest with us, who will challenge us to stay true to our intentions.

In a world obsessed with quick fixes and instant gratification, accountability invites patience. It reminds us that meaningful change takes time, honesty, and humility.

N – Nourishment

True nourishment goes far beyond food. It’s what fills your heart, stimulates your mind, and sustains your soul. For a long time, I didn’t have the courage to demand nourishment in my life. I settled for crumbs—emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

Now, nourishment looks like surrounding myself with people who uplift me, words that empower me, and practices that bring me peace. It’s the joy of learning something new, being challenged, and pouring energy into what truly matters.

C – Connection

Without connection, nothing else matters. Connection is the invisible thread that ties us to ourselves, to others, and to something greater.

When we lose connection, we begin to perform instead of live. But when we nurture it—through vulnerability, empathy, and curiosity—we rediscover meaning. We remember that we are not meant to do life alone.

E – Enjoyment

Life is meant to be enjoyed. Yet somewhere along the way, we forget how to play. We stop laughing, dancing, exploring—thinking adulthood means seriousness. But joy is sacred. It’s fuel for the soul.

None of us are getting out of here alive, so why not make the most of the time we have? Let yourself be playful. Let yourself be free. Joy is not a distraction—it’s a declaration that you are alive.

A Call to Reclaim Your Balance

The world may be chaotic, but you don’t have to be. You can choose a different way of living—one rooted in awareness, intention, and connection.

The B.A.L.A.N.C.E. Framework isn’t just a concept—it’s an invitation to return home to yourself. To live with presence instead of pressure. To rebuild the bridge between your humanity and your daily life.

If you’re ready to slow down, reconnect, and live on your own terms, I invite you to join me for an Intention Session. Together, we’ll explore what balance looks like for you and create a roadmap to help you reclaim your peace, purpose, and power—one intentional step at a time.

Your journey back to balance begins now.
Are you ready?

The Art of Reconnection: Healing Beyond the Scroll

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 07:11:19 GMT

The Art of Reconnection: Healing Beyond the Scroll

Finding My Way Back to Presence

I have to admit—lately, I’ve spent an obscene amount of time doom scrolling as a coping mechanism for emotional avoidance. There are so many unbelievable things happening in the world; sometimes it just feels too heavy to hold. But the truth is, the endless scrolling doesn’t help at all. It’s like I’m just feeding my mind more noise—information my body and brain can’t process.

And when I step back, I know this constant flood of stimulation isn’t accidental. It’s designed to keep us mentally fatigued, disconnected, and numb. The more overstimulated we are, the harder it is to feel. The harder it is to feel, the harder it becomes to think clearly, make choices that serve us, and stay grounded in who we are.

The other morning, I woke up super early and decided to take a walk in the park. I packed my water, my backpack, and my headphones. Normally, I rely on music to carry me through the walk—especially when I don’t feel motivated—but this time, I felt no desire to listen to anything. I wanted quiet.

The sound of the birds, the soft morning breeze, and the hum of gentle conversations floating through the park felt more healing than anything I could have downloaded. It reminded me of something I had forgotten: that being in nature is medicine. It heals the nervous system, restores perspective, and brings us back to presence.

Overconsumption and constant marketing have infiltrated even the quiet spaces of our minds—convincing us that we need more products, more procedures, more of everything to feel whole. But what I’ve realized is that the deeper I chase those illusions, the further I drift from myself.

The disappointment of losing connection to who I am brings a new kind of overwhelm. Just living—truly living—feels like an act of rebellion in a world that profits from our distraction. The modern world keeps whispering: buy more, do more, be more.
But my soul keeps whispering: breathe, listen, and return.

If you don’t have a sense of self and a solid foundation of your values, it’s so easy to be led astray. And that’s the danger—most of this conditioning doesn’t scream; it hums quietly beneath our everyday routines. It’s in the endless feed, the pressure to keep up, the fear of missing out.

So how do we fight this battle? Maybe it’s not even a battle at all. Maybe it’s a homecoming.

A homecoming to stillness.
A homecoming to self-awareness.
A homecoming to what truly nourishes our body, mind, and spirit.

It’s work. Real work.

The kind that doesn’t come with instant results or pretty packaging. But it’s the kind that changes everything. Because when we slow down long enough to actually feel, we start to see where we’re depleted, where we’re disconnected, and where we need healing.

That’s where intention comes in.

Intention isn’t just about what we want — it’s about how we choose to show up for ourselves daily. It’s the bridge between awareness and action. Between knowing and doing.

�� An Invitation to Begin Again

If any of this resonates with you — if you’ve been feeling mentally overwhelmed, emotionally tired, or physically disconnected — I want to invite you to step into something different.

Join me for an Intention Session through Move with Mysti. These sessions are designed to help you realign with yourself through mindful movement, reflection, and guided conversation — so you can start making growth choices that truly nourish your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

It’s not about perfection or performance; it’s about coming home to yourself and learning to live with purpose again.

�� This week’s invitation:

Take one quiet walk without your phone.
Notice how your body feels when you simply listen to the world around you.
Then ask yourself: What do I truly need right now?

And when you’re ready, let’s explore that answer together.
✨ Schedule your Intention Session with me at Move with Mysti and start creating a life that feels aligned, present, and deeply your own.

Because peace isn’t found in the scroll — it’s found in the pause.

When Life Says Pause: The Unexpected Power of a Reset

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 06:27:06 GMT

When Life Says Pause: The Unexpected Power of a Reset

The Power of a Reset

I had planned a six-day trip to Shanghai, China, on October 12, 2025. Since moving to Thailand, my curiosity about China has grown immensely. Back in the United States, my understanding of China was filtered through media narratives and uninformed opinions—stories that often painted a one-dimensional, negative picture.

Living in Thailand, “The Land of the Free,” has expanded my worldview. I’ve found a deeper respect for cultures that are different from my own and a genuine curiosity to learn, observe, and experience life through fresh eyes.

But life has a way of redirecting us.

When I arrived at the airport, ready for adventure, I was told I could only pay my luggage fee in cash. I didn’t have enough on hand—and the ATM wasn’t an option. To make matters worse, I couldn’t bring my carry-on aboard. Suddenly, the trip I had so carefully planned slipped through my fingers.

My friend was already at the gate, ready to board. She offered to help, but security wouldn’t let her come back through. In that moment, disappointment and sadness hit me hard. Something so simple—something so small—stopped me in my tracks.

But once the frustration faded, something else set in: clarity.

Timing is Everything

I’ve traveled countless times, but never faced this kind of setback. I had double-checked everything: visa requirements, documents, luggage. Still, I couldn’t shake the feeling that this happened for a reason.

Sometimes life forces us to pause when we won’t do it ourselves.

This unplanned stop became an invitation to reset. Instead of fighting the moment, I embraced it. I pulled out my notebook and started writing:

What’s truly important to me right now?
What are my values?
Where am I headed—and is it aligned with my purpose?

That quiet time of reflection was powerful. It grounded me. It reminded me that living intentionally means not just moving forward, but pausing to assess where we stand—mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

In the midst of chaos or disappointment, we can choose presence. We can use those moments as a mirror, asking: What is this trying to teach me?

The Lesson: Prioritize Your Reset

When life doesn’t go as planned, it’s easy to spiral into frustration or self-blame. But sometimes, that delay or detour is divine timing. It’s a call to slow down, realign, and reconnect with what really matters.

A reset isn’t failure—it’s clarity.

That’s exactly what we do in Move with Mysti and during my Intention Sessions. These offerings are designed to help you slow down, release the noise, and return to your center. It’s about moving with purpose, both physically and mentally, and learning to respond to life from alignment rather than reaction.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, burned out, or uncertain about your next steps—this is your sign to take a pause.

✨ Join me for a Reset.
Move with intention. Breathe with awareness. Create space for clarity.

�� Learn more about Move with Mysti and book your Intention Session here.

“Why Soulwork Matters in a World That Wants You to Forget Who You Are”

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 16:14:26 GMT

“Why Soulwork Matters in a World That Wants You to Forget Who You Are”

With the current state of the world, it’s been hard not to want to withdraw within. The external world can feel unsafe—filled with violence, anger, and uncertainty.

What I’ve learned throughout my life is that the more we can withstand the harshness of the external world, the stronger we become inside. Moving to Thailand has shown me how essential it is to do the internal work—to develop the emotional and spiritual strength needed to face the external world with grace.

We live in a culture obsessed with consumerism, endless options, and constant comparison. Our value is measured by followers, likes, and productivity. It’s safe to say we are all trying to cope in an insane world—one that has normalized disconnection and distraction.

It’s easier to go along to get along than to face how this affects our mind, body, and spirit. But without a strong foundation—one rooted in self-awareness, emotional honesty, and values—it’s easy to get lost. To be manipulated, used, and discarded. I speak from experience.

What I’ve come to understand is that all of these experiences lead us back to self.
From birth, we’re conditioned to be everything but who we truly are. Society’s expectations, family pressures, and cultural norms often shape us more than our own inner truth. But eventually, something inside us whispers—or screams—“This isn’t working.”

That’s when the real work begins.
The return to self.
The Soulwork.

It’s not for the faint of heart. It feels like death—because it is a kind of death.
It’s saying goodbye to identities that once protected us but now limit us.
It’s letting go of beliefs that no longer serve our growth.
It’s releasing who we thought we had to be so we can remember who we really are.

Soulwork is going within and giving ourselves the permission to be.
It’s shutting out the noise of the world and coming home—to our heart, our spirit, and our body.
When we return home to ourselves, healing begins.
Our body releases, our mind quiets, and our soul expands.

This is the real work.
This is Soulwork.

If you’re ready to reconnect with your body, mind, and spirit, I invite you to join Move with Mysti—a weekly online movement class that’s more than just exercise. It’s about slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and restoring your natural balance.

✨ Experience the difference when you move with intention.

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And if you’re ready to go deeper—to uncover what’s blocking your energy, purpose, and joy—book an Intention Session.
Together, we’ll work on aligning your inner world so you can live and lead from a grounded, authentic place.

�� Book your Intention Session today and begin your Soulwork.
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Technology Fatigue is Real-Here's How to Reclaim Your Energy

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 12:53:35 GMT

Technology Fatigue is REAL-Here's How to Reclaim Your Energy

When I was younger, there was freedom. Freedom to be creative, to daydream, to enjoy the simplicity of life without constant noise. Back then, I didn’t have endless options at my fingertips.

Today, it’s different. With every scroll, my heart races and my mind spins. The overload of everything makes it hard to breathe. Sometimes, I wonder how much rewiring my brain has gone through because of doom-scrolling.

I’ve noticed this pattern — when I carry a book with me, my nervous system softens. I remember when people used to pull out books instead of phones. Losing yourself in one story, one character, one event… it grounds you.

Scrolling, on the other hand, never feels like “enough.” It’s a cycle that pulls you in deeper. And while quitting cold turkey gives me a rush of nostalgia — a glimpse of my old self — before long, as Al Pacino said: “Every time I try to get out, I get pulled right back in.”

The truth is, living in today’s world is a struggle. Every day we’re flooded with distractions, obligations, and noise. It takes real energy to stay grounded.

That’s why intention matters.

When we give attention to our habits, when we ask “Where am I putting my energy? Who do I want to be?” — everything shifts.

Self-care isn’t a luxury anymore. It’s a survival skill.

✨ Putting devices away.
✨ Allowing stillness.
✨ Choosing quiet.
✨ Simply being.

That’s where clarity lives. That’s where peace begins.

If you’re craving this kind of clarity in your own life, I invite you to join me for an Intention Session.

�� It’s a guided space to slow down, reconnect with yourself, and uncover what you truly want — beyond the noise, beyond the expectations.

Your energy is too valuable to give away unconsciously. Let’s take it back together.

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Human. Not A Resource

Wed, 06 Aug 2025 06:55:18 GMT

Human. Not A Resource.

Human. Not a Resource.

In today’s world, it’s becoming harder and harder to connect—with ourselves and with others. Many of us have unknowingly made our phones our closest companions. Constant notifications, emails, and chat messages pull us in every direction, making it nearly impossible to relax and focus on what truly matters.

But here’s the question: Do we even know what truly matters anymore?

The overwhelming consumption of opinions, content, products, and noise can make anyone feel like they’re drowning. Humans were never meant to absorb this much information—especially not content that jumps from cute puppies to Karen-style meltdowns, war footage, and people breaking down under the pressure of life.

Sometimes I have to pause and ask myself: Is this really the world we’re living in?

Because here’s the truth—when we stop being aware, what becomes “normal” can become deeply destructive.

We have to be honest about how technology is impacting our lives.

Yes, it’s helped us. It’s made mundane tasks disappear with a click. It’s slashed execution time in half. It’s given us 24/7 access to AI and online support. But here’s the other side of that same coin: there’s been a massive increase in anxiety, depression, and disconnection. We’re more “connected” than ever—but more lonely than ever, too.

Social skills are becoming obsolete. Many people now experience social anxiety simply from being around other humans. And this lack of true connection builds emotional walls—forts of cynicism, insensitivity, and ignorance.

So I ask again: Are we using technology, or is it using us? Are we human beings… or just humans consuming?

When you’re always plugged in, you always feel like you’re missing out. And in this non-stop, always-on culture, people begin to treat each other like resources rather than human beings.

Everyone is trying to sell you something. Everyone is being sold to. It’s exhausting.

It’s hard to find the value in simply being.

We need quiet.
We need stillness.
We need intention.

Allowing time for silence is essential for connecting with ourselves. Confidence grows through creativity. And creativity is born in those quiet spaces—when we can listen to our own voice, feel our emotions, and come back home to our bodies.

Self-awareness is the ability to observe ourselves from the outside. This kind of perspective gives us clarity—clarity about what no longer serves us and about how to move forward in life with more peace and purpose.

To live holistically, we need boundaries with technology.
We need intentional practices.
Because the fight to remain human—whole, grounded, aware—is real and ongoing.

We must create rituals that nourish us physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
We must remember the importance of being whole.

�� Ready to reconnect with yourself?

If you're feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or disconnected—you're not alone. You're not "lazy." You're not "broken." You're simply out of alignment with what matters to you.

That's where Intention Sessions come in.

These sessions are more than just conversations—they're guided moments of reflection, support, and strategy to help you come back to yourself. We'll explore what’s draining you, what’s calling you, and how to move forward with clarity and purpose.

�� Let’s work together to reclaim your time, your peace, and your humanity.

�� Book your first Intention Session now

Consistency Starts With You

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 11:40:46 GMT

Consistency Starts With You

Getting to know yourself—really know yourself—is the foundation of consistency. When you understand what motivates and inspires you, showing up for yourself stops being a chore and starts becoming a commitment.

Here’s my truth: I don’t enjoy sitting at a computer for hours. Online marketing often feels foreign to me. This digital world can feel disconnected and impersonal. The lack of face-to-face interaction, the anonymity, and the constant stream of inhumanity online? It gives me the heebie-jeebies.

Working in person, building relationships—that comes naturally. I’ve had the privilege of engaging with people from all walks of life, learning lessons no textbook could ever teach. Guiding people in connecting with their bodies has deepened my connection to my own. Wellness work has been the most fulfilling path I’ve walked. To contribute authentically and with purpose—that’s my definition of success.

And yet… I’ve struggled with consistency. Not because I don’t care. The intentions have always been there. But action? That’s where I’ve faltered. I’ve spent time reading books, listening to podcasts, consuming endless information—looking for the spark. But the truth is, nothing builds the muscle like doing the thing. Repetition. Showing up.

Before I could be consistent in anything else, I had to be consistent with myself. My self-care had to come first—not as a luxury, but as a necessity. Staying grounded in my humanity, not letting my work define my worth, is what keeps me well. Without that, burnout and depression wait in the wings.

My morning ritual now includes quiet time with spirit, intentional movement, and words that nourish my soul. These simple, intentional acts keep me connected to who I am. They form the foundation for everything else I want to build.

So here’s what I’ve learned: Consistency begins with the promises we keep to ourselves.

If this message resonates with you—if you’re ready to begin honoring yourself in a deeper way—I invite you to explore an Intention Session with me. This is a space to reconnect, realign, and recommit to the life you truly want to live.

Let’s begin with you.

Moving with Intention: Reclaiming Love from Within

Wed, 28 May 2025 14:26:10 GMT

Moving with Intention: Reclaiming Love from Within

For a long time, I thought movement was about results — strength, weight, flexibility, aesthetics. I was taught to see my body as something to fix, to mold, or to discipline into submission.

But now I know that movement can be something much deeper.
Something sacred.
Something healing.

Intentional movement has become a form of self-support. It’s how I listen to myself. It’s how I hold space for all the parts of me — the strong, the tender, the tired, the unsure. It’s how I say: I am here. I matter. I deserve to be nurtured.

It didn't start this way.
In fact, the turning point came when my therapist looked at me and said words that left me breathless:

“You’re outsourcing love.”

At first, I recoiled. My body tensed, my mind scrambled for a rebuttal. I felt exposed, embarrassed… but also seen in a way I hadn’t allowed myself to be.
Because deep down, I knew she was right.

I had spent years looking outside of myself for affirmation — through relationships, productivity, perfectionism, service. I knew how to show up for others, but I didn’t know how to show up for myself.
That truth was hard to sit with. But it was also the beginning of everything changing.

Learning to Nurture Myself Wasn’t Easy — But It Set Me Free

Giving myself the love, care, and gentleness I had longed for from others didn’t happen overnight.
It happened in small moments:

Choosing rest over hustle.
Moving my body because it felt good, not because I had to.
Creating rituals that centered my well-being.
Letting myself be witnessed — not for what I do, but for who I am.

Intentional movement became one of those rituals. A bridge between body and spirit. A daily practice that allowed me to express my emotions, release stuck energy, and reconnect with my power. It’s where I learned how to meet myself with kindness.

There’s a kind of freedom that comes when you stop chasing love and start cultivating it from within. It’s not loud. It’s not always Instagrammable. But it’s real. And it’s sustainable.

Planting Seeds of Intention

When we move with purpose, we plant seeds for something more meaningful:

Inner strength that doesn’t depend on validation.
Confidence rooted in knowing, not proving.
Calm in the body and clarity in the mind.
A deeper connection to spirit and intuition.

This is the foundation for real growth — not just in our bodies, but in our lives.

But intention doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s a choice. A practice. A lifestyle.

�� Are You Ready to Come Home to Yourself?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or just tired of performing for the world while forgetting yourself in the process — I see you.
And there’s another way.

✨ Move for Mysti

This is not your typical movement class. These live, online sessions are sacred spaces to reconnect with your body, ground your energy, and let movement become your medicine. You’ll stretch, breathe, release tension, and remember your strength — all while being held in a nurturing space that honors your truth.

�� Intention Sessions

These one-on-one sessions are a powerful container for transformation. Whether you're feeling stuck, navigating life changes, or simply want to reconnect with your inner voice, Intention Sessions help you slow down, reflect, and realign. Together, we’ll create rituals and mind-body practices that support your healing and evolution.

❤️‍�� You are not broken. You are becoming.

All you need is a space to remember your wholeness.

�� Ready to start in July?
�� Join a Move for Mysti session this week — come as you are.
�� Contact me for an Intention session — let’s co-create your next chapter with presence and power.

This is your invitation to move, breathe, and live…
on your own terms.

From Pressure to Presence: Reframing Growth on My Own Terms

Wed, 14 May 2025 09:54:55 GMT

From Pressure to Presence: Reframing Growth on My Own Terms

Challenges are something I crave.
They stretch me.
They pull me into parts of myself I didn’t even know were there.
They’re like meeting someone new — full of mystery, insight, and the unexpected.

There’s a curiosity that comes alive in me when I'm asked to stretch.
A desire to understand, to go deeper, to unravel and reframe.
It’s not just about overcoming — it’s about evolving.

But I’ve also come face to face with something difficult and deeply personal:
This hunger to “do well,” to “be great,” to impress — it can become a trap.
What started as healthy motivation quickly became performance.
And performance became a mask.

The Lie of Mastery

Society often measures us by how good we are — not how whole we are.
I’ve felt the pressure to master something before I’ve even had time to be curious.
The desire to be exceptional, to avoid failure, to be seen as capable — it’s exhausting.

That pressure has given me a serious case of imposter syndrome.
And if I’m honest, it’s made me want to give up at times.
Not because I don’t love what I’m doing, but because I feel like I have to be someone else to do it.

But here’s the shift that changed everything for me:

Being “good” is not the point. Being present is.

Reframing the Journey

I had to reframe my learning — not as a race to mastery, but as an invitation to engage with myself differently.

Now, I ask:

What part of me is showing up in this discomfort?
How can I move through this with care instead of critique?
What does it look like to bring my whole self — not just the polished parts — into this moment?

This change has helped me discover a more authentic way of being.
It’s helped me slow down, listen in, and connect from a place of truth instead of performance.
And that’s what I want to offer to others.

Move with Mysti: A New Season Begins

Starting in July, the Move with Mysti Membership is shifting into something even more intentional.
We're slowing down — on purpose.
We're creating space to move, feel, and reflect — together.

Here’s what’s new:

��‍♀️ Wednesdays: Meditation & Movement Class (Live Weekly)
A blend of mindful movement and grounding meditation to reset your nervous system and realign with your body.

�� One Sunday Each Month: The Intention Circle (NEW)
A live, heart-centered emotional support session — where we’ll gather in community, hold space for reflection, and explore themes like letting go, reclaiming worth, and finding balance. These sessions are deeply inspired by the community work I led in-person in Bangkok — and now they’re open to all members, no matter where you are in the world.

�� Full Library of On-Demand Classes
Revisit past movement & meditation sessions anytime you need a reset.

�� Intention Sessions (Starting in July)
I’ll also be offering 1:1 Intention Sessions for those craving more personal support, clarity, or transformation. These are powerful 45-minute sessions designed to help you pause, reflect, and reconnect to what matters most.

Let This Be Your Turning Point

If you’ve been craving a more grounded, more real way to care for yourself —
If you’re tired of striving and ready to start becoming —
If you want to connect, move, feel, and grow in a space where you don’t have to be perfect —
I hope you’ll join us.

This is a space for wholeness. For honesty. For reclaiming your rhythm.

Let’s grow together — not for mastery, but for meaning.

Join the membership. Book a session. Or just reach out and say hello.

Because you don’t have to do it all.
But you do deserve to do it on your own terms.

— Mysti ��

The Power of Communication: Strengthening Relationships Through Confidence & Clarity

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 09:32:33 GMT

The Power of Communication: Strengthening Relationships Through Confidence & Clarity

Communication is one of the most powerful tools we have, yet it remains one of the most misunderstood. We are told from an early age that everyone has a voice and the right to express themselves, but as we grow, we often find that the reality is much different. Social norms, workplace dynamics, and personal relationships all come with their own unspoken rules, leaving many unsure of how to navigate the complexities of open and honest dialogue.

For much of my life, I struggled to speak up for myself. I lacked the confidence to articulate my needs and desires, often second-guessing my intuition. Without the agency to express myself freely, I found my voice silenced—not by others, but by my own self-doubt. I realized that true communication isn’t just about speaking; it’s about having the courage to be heard. It’s about creating an environment where dialogue fosters understanding, trust, and mutual respect.

The Art of Authentic Communication

Having real, effective conversations requires clarity. Communication without direction is like wandering without a map—unfocused and unproductive. Approaching conversations with a clear goal in mind ensures that interactions are purposeful, prevents misunderstandings, and builds stronger relationships. Whether it’s in personal connections, workplace discussions, or even interactions with healthcare providers, effective communication is key to positive outcomes.

In relationships, clear communication fosters deeper emotional intimacy and trust.
In professional settings, it opens doors for collaboration and growth.
In healthcare, it empowers individuals to advocate for their well-being by asking the right questions and expressing concerns.

Confidence & The Body-Mind Connection

But what does confidence in communication have to do with the body? More than we often realize. The way we carry ourselves, the tension we hold in our muscles, and our physical self-perception all impact our ability to communicate effectively. When the body is tense, the mind follows, making it difficult to express ourselves authentically.

This is where movement becomes transformative. Move with Mysti is not just about Pilates or physical wellness—it’s about cultivating confidence in your body, releasing tension, and finding ease in self-expression. When we feel good in our bodies, we naturally exude confidence in our words. Relaxation and strength foster authentic communication, allowing us to navigate conversations with clarity, presence, and assurance.

Join Move with Mysti: Find Your Voice, Move with Confidence

If you’ve ever struggled with expressing yourself, doubted your intuition, or felt unheard, know that change starts from within. Through intentional movement and mindfulness, you can release physical tension, build self-confidence, and embrace communication that is both powerful and authentic.

Are you ready to step into a more confident, expressive version of yourself? Join Move with Mysti and experience how movement can transform not just your body, but your ability to connect and communicate with the world around you.

Let’s move, grow, and express—together.

#MoveWithMysti #AuthenticCommunication #MindBodyConnection

Integrity in Wellness: Staying True to My Values in a Profit-Driven Industry

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 10:59:50 GMT

Integrity in Wellness: Staying True to My Values in a Profit-Driven Industry

Wellness has always been more than just a profession for me—it’s a calling, a purpose, and a way of life. It’s the space where I feel I’ve made my most genuine contributions to society, helping people reconnect with themselves, their health, and their overall well-being.

There are moments when I feel profoundly grateful to have discovered practices that speak to my soul—practices that have not only transformed my own life but have allowed me to guide others toward deeper self-awareness and healing. The ability to help someone find clarity, regain confidence in their body, or simply slow down and breathe is an honor that I don’t take lightly.

But my journey in the wellness industry hasn’t been without challenges.

When Wellness Becomes a Business First, and a Practice Second

It has been disheartening to step into spaces that promote the idea of wellness, only to realize that their true focus is on profit rather than transformation. So many programs, studios, and brands prioritize selling an image rather than fostering real change.

We see it everywhere—quick-fix programs that promise unrealistic results, luxury retreats that cater only to an exclusive few, and wellness trends that cycle in and out like fast fashion. The industry often tells people that their well-being is something they must buy rather than cultivate from within. And that’s where I draw the line.

Wellness should be about empowerment, not dependency. It should be about giving people the tools to connect with themselves and take ownership of their health—physically, mentally, and emotionally. It shouldn’t be a commodity that is only available to those who can afford an expensive price tag.

That’s why my approach has always been different.

Empowering People to Own Their Wellness Journey

For me, wellness has never been about dictating what people should do. It’s about engaging people in their own wellness journey. True well-being isn’t about following a strict set of rules—it’s about discovering what works for you, learning how to listen to your body, and cultivating habits that align with your values and lifestyle.

I have always embraced my role as a coach, mentor, and guide—not as someone who has all the answers but as someone who can provide knowledge, inspiration, and support.

My philosophy is built on three core principles:

Accountability: Your health, happiness, and healing are in your hands. I can offer tools and guidance, but ultimately, you are the one who must take action.
Education: Knowledge is power. When people understand how their body, mind, and emotions work together, they can make more informed choices about their well-being.
Connection: True wellness doesn’t happen in isolation. It comes from building a supportive community, forming deep connections with ourselves and others, and creating balance in all areas of life.

Integrity as the Foundation

At the core of everything I do is integrity. I believe in authenticity, transparency, and staying true to my values—no matter what the industry trends may be.

I don’t need to be the most popular. I don’t need to conform to what’s mainstream if it doesn’t align with my principles. I don’t need to sell an illusion to make a living.

I just need to be myself.

And in doing so, I attract the right people—those who are tired of superficial wellness trends, who are ready for real transformation, and who want to do the work to create lasting change in their lives.

Because at the end of the day, true wellness isn’t about fitting into someone else’s mold. It’s about learning to show up for yourself, embracing who you are, and living in alignment with your own truth.

And that starts with integrity.

The Power of Cultural Awareness: Why Learning History, Customs, and Language Matters

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 07:03:50 GMT

The Power of Cultural Awareness: Why Learning History, Customs, and Language Matters

In a different world, I would make it mandatory for every traveler to deeply study the history, culture, and language of a country before visiting. Imagine a world where we don’t just consume culture for our own benefit, but respect it, understand it, and honor it.

Yet, the reality we live in often prioritizes convenience over education. It’s baffling how little emphasis educational systems place on learning the contributions and histories of diverse cultures. The lens through which many of us were taught history has been narrow—often elevating one narrative while reducing others to footnotes.

The Problem with a Eurocentric Education

I remember being in school and realizing that European history was treated as the history—everything else was either secondary or, worse, nonexistent. From grade school through college, Europe was the main character, while other cultures were relegated to the background. And when non-European civilizations were mentioned, they were often framed as subordinates—people who were “discovered,” “conquered,” or “civilized” for their own supposed benefit.

This historical bias isn’t just about what is taught; it’s about what is not taught. So many cultures have made groundbreaking contributions to science, philosophy, medicine, architecture, and the arts, yet they are rarely given the credit they deserve. The lack of awareness doesn’t just erase history—it shapes how we see ourselves and others.

My Experience Living in Thailand

Moving to Thailand has been an eye-opening experience. Over the last twenty years, I’ve visited as a tourist, captivated by the warmth of the people, the depth of the culture, and the richness of the food. Each visit felt like a homecoming. And now, having made the decision to live here, I’m even more aware of how much there is to learn.

I don’t speak the language fluently yet, but I’m learning. Studying Thai history and customs has become a daily practice—one that has given me a deeper appreciation for the resilience, ingenuity, and traditions of the Thai people.

But what has stood out to me the most is how many foreigners come to Thailand with little to no interest in learning about its culture. Some treat the country as a playground, indulging in privileges and behaviors they wouldn’t dare exhibit in their home countries. Others expect Thailand to cater to their way of life, rather than making an effort to integrate into the local way of life.

This isn’t just a Thai issue—it happens everywhere. The lack of cultural awareness and respect is a global problem, deeply rooted in the way history is taught and valued.

Why Culture Matters for Self-Esteem and Growth

Culture is the foundation of identity. It shapes how we see ourselves, how we connect with others, and how we move through the world. When a person understands and values their own culture, they develop a stronger sense of self-worth. When they take the time to learn about other cultures, they develop empathy, respect, and a more expansive worldview.

Unfortunately, the lack of emphasis on cultural education fosters ignorance, entitlement, and division. If people truly studied the places they visited—understanding their histories, struggles, and triumphs—they would move with more humility and respect. They would see people not just as service providers or background characters in their vacation stories, but as human beings with deep-rooted traditions, knowledge, and experiences.

A Call to Action

I challenge everyone to make cultural education a priority—whether you’re traveling, working in global spaces, or simply engaging with people from different backgrounds.

�� Before visiting a new country, take the time to learn its history beyond what travel blogs tell you.
�� Learn the basics of the language, even if it’s just simple greetings.
�� Observe and respect local customs instead of expecting your own to be the norm.
�� Challenge the Eurocentric lens that shaped much of the history you were taught—there’s so much more to learn.

Education doesn’t stop in school. The more we make the effort to understand cultures outside of our own, the more connected and respectful our world will be.

Have you ever had a moment where learning about another culture changed your perspective? I’d love to hear your thoughts! Drop a comment below. ⬇️

Alone Together: Navigating Human Connection in the Age of Technology

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 04:59:44 GMT

Alone Together: Navigating Human Connection in the Age of Technology

Moving to a different country requires effort—not just in adapting to a new environment, but in building real, meaningful connections. Relationships aren’t just a luxury; they’re essential to our well-being. As Northwestern Medicine Psychologist Sheehan D. Fisher, PhD states, “Social support is a very important part of being a human, and therefore when social relationships break down or are damaged, it can have a big impact on our mental health & well-being.”

When I arrived in Thailand, I turned to online expat groups to find community. At first, it was a lifeline—a way to feel welcome in a place where I knew no one. But I soon realized something unsettling: I wasn’t just joining a community; I was becoming a product for a brand. Many of these groups and organizations weren’t built for genuine connection; they were designed to serve an agenda—where people weren’t participants, but commodities.

This isn’t a new phenomenon. I remember when I was in esthetics school, every student was required to sign a waiver surrendering their right to privacy. We weren’t just students; we were marketing material.

I recognized how this made me feel—disposable, transactional, unseen. It forced me to reflect on what I truly needed: authentic, reciprocal relationships. I had to redefine how I engaged with people and be intentional about the spaces I entered.

The Age of "Alone Together"

Technology has fundamentally altered how we connect. We’ve become accustomed to a new way of being:

�� Alone together. Surrounded by people, yet disconnected.
�� Efficiency over depth. Human relationships are messy, emotional, and time-consuming—technology strips away the complexity.
�� Constant demand for instant responses. Reflection and thoughtful conversations are now considered a weakness.

But human relationships aren’t meant to be efficient. They require patience, vulnerability, and time. They’re not transactional—they’re transformational.

So here’s my question to you: Are you truly connecting, or just consuming?

Let’s break free from being products and return to being people. Prioritize real connections. Be intentional. Seek out spaces that honor your humanity, not just your data.

�� What’s one way you cultivate genuine relationships in a digital world? Drop your thoughts in the comments.

#AuthenticConnections #HumanFirst #AloneTogether #MindfulTechnology #DigitalWellness #RealRelationships

Is Technology Helping or Hurting? Why I’m Starting a Digital Detox Challenge

Sun, 09 Feb 2025 06:50:28 GMT

Is Technology Helping or Hurting? Why I’m Starting a Digital Detox Challenge

Lately, I’ve been feeling a shift—one I didn’t expect. As someone who has always thrived on human connection, I now find myself spending most of my time behind a screen. Teaching online, running a business, and handling life’s daily tasks have all become digital.

And while I love the flexibility that technology provides, there’s something missing—something I didn’t fully realize until I found myself longing for face-to-face interactions, spontaneous conversations, and the energy of real human presence.

I’ve noticed something else, too. The more I work on my devices, the less connected I feel—not just to other people, but to myself.

The Transactional Trap: Have We Forgotten How to Connect?

We live in a world where convenience is king. With a few taps, we can order food, book appointments, and even have entire conversations without speaking a single word. But here’s the catch: most of our interactions today are purely transactional.

Think about it—how often do we engage with others beyond just getting what we need? A quick email, a short chat message, a rushed video call—it’s all efficient, but it lacks depth.

Even social media, designed to “connect” us, has turned into a highlight reel rather than a space for real, meaningful engagement. We scroll, we like, we comment—but do we actually feel connected?

The more we rely on technology for communication, the more uncomfortable real-life interactions can feel. I’ve caught myself hesitating before making a phone call instead of texting. I’ve seen people (myself included) awkwardly avoid eye contact in public spaces, buried in our phones. It’s as if we’ve forgotten how to just “be” with one another.

Technology: A Double-Edged Sword

Now, don’t get me wrong—technology is an incredible tool. It’s given us freedom, flexibility, and access to opportunities we never had before. I can work from anywhere in the world, connect with people across time zones, and build something meaningful online.

But it has also brought a new kind of stress—one that comes from being constantly plugged in, constantly available, and bombarded with choices at every turn.

I’ve found myself feeling anxious about having too many options—what to watch, what to read, what to listen to, what task to tackle next. It’s like decision fatigue on steroids. And sometimes, I miss the simplicity of life before all this—when boredom sparked creativity instead of another scroll session.

My Intentional Tech Reset

Realizing this, I decided to take back control. Instead of letting my devices dictate my time, I started using them intentionally. Here’s what’s been helping me reconnect with myself and the world around me:

✅ Setting Social Media Limits – No more mindless scrolling when I’m overwhelmed. Instead, I use that time to check in with how I’m actually feeling.

✅ Reading One Book a Month – Instead of consuming bite-sized content, I’m diving into stories and ideas that make me think critically and spark my imagination.

✅ Creating a Daily Focus List – Having a clear plan keeps me from feeling scattered and reactive.

✅ Quiet Time Every Day – Whether it’s meditation, journaling, or just sitting in silence, this has helped me regain perspective and clarity.

✅ Engaging in Real-Life Conversations – Making an effort to talk to people in person, whether it's a casual chat with a stranger or deep conversations with friends.

✅ Taking Notes from Thai Culture – Living in Thailand has shown me that life is about more than work. There’s a rhythm of presence and appreciation here that I admire and want to incorporate into my own life.

The Digital Detox Challenge: Are You In?

I know I’m not alone in this. So many of us feel drained, disconnected, and overstimulated—but we don’t know how to break the cycle.

That’s why I’m inviting you to join me in a Digital Detox Challenge—a chance to step back, reset, and reclaim your time, focus, and peace of mind.

This challenge isn’t about ditching technology altogether (we’re not moving to the woods just yet). It’s about using it in a way that serves us, rather than controls us.

�� Imagine waking up and feeling refreshed, instead of reaching for your phone first thing.
�� Imagine being fully present with people, rather than distracted by notifications.
�� Imagine creating, thinking, and feeling inspired again—without the constant noise.

Sounds good, right? Let’s make it happen.

Here’s How to Join:

�� Comment "I’M IN" below if you’re ready to reset!
�� Follow along as I share tips, challenges, and insights over the next few weeks.
�� Let’s support each other in creating a more balanced, connected life.

It’s time to stop reacting to technology and start using it on our own terms.

Are you with me? Drop a "YES" below and let’s do this! ��

#DigitalDetox #ReclaimYourTime #MindfulTech #IntentionalLiving #DisconnectToReconnect

Movement as Medicine: Healing Through Mindful Movement Practices

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:26:20 GMT

Movement as Medicine: Healing Through Mindful Movement Practices

In a world that often prioritizes productivity over presence and expectations over individuality, the connection between our bodies and minds can feel like an afterthought. Yet, movement is one of the most profound ways to heal and reconnect with ourselves.

For me, movement—particularly dance—has always been medicine. It’s been my sanctuary, my form of self-expression, and my cultural inheritance. In West African traditions, dance is more than just movement; it’s a sacred act of healing and connection. It’s how stories are told, emotions are released, and communities come together. Dance, in its purest form, is a language of the soul.

Yet, in environments that suppress self-expression, the power of movement is often diminished. Living in such spaces can lead to a lack of confidence and even self-doubt. When we aren’t allowed to express who we are—whether through words, art, or movement—we risk losing touch with our identity. For me, returning to movement has been a way of reclaiming myself, of healing the parts of me that felt silenced.

Let’s explore how movement can serve as medicine, not only for our physical bodies but also for our minds and spirits.

The Healing Power of Movement

Movement has been used as a form of healing for centuries across cultures. Whether it’s the fluidity of yoga, the rhythmic sway of dance, or the intentional flow of tai chi, these practices share one thing in common: they reconnect us to ourselves.

Here’s how movement heals:

Releasing Emotions : Emotions are stored in the body, and movement helps release them. Dance, for example, allows you to embody your feelings, turning pain, joy, or uncertainty into something tangible.
Promoting Mindfulness : Practices like yoga or tai chi anchor you in the present moment. They teach you to listen to your breath, feel the stretch of your muscles, and be fully present in your body.
Boosting Confidence: Movement reminds you of your strength. Each step, pose, or motion is a celebration of what your body can do. Over time, this builds confidence and helps dissolve self-doubt.
Reconnecting to Culture and Identity : For many, movement is tied to heritage. For me, West African dance is a way of honoring my ancestors, embracing my identity, and finding healing in the rhythm of tradition.

Mindful Movement Practices to Explore

There are countless ways to incorporate healing movement into your life. Here are three practices to consider:

1. Dance as Expression and Healing

Dance is my first love and remains my most cherished form of movement. It’s where I feel most free, most connected to my spirit. You don’t need to be a professional to benefit from dance—just find a space, turn on some music, and let your body lead.

How to Get Started:

Create a playlist of songs that resonate with you emotionally.
Find a private space where you feel safe to move.
Close your eyes and begin with small, natural movements. Allow your body to interpret the music however it feels.
Don’t worry about what it looks like—focus on what it feels like.

2. Yoga for Mind-Body Connection

Yoga combines breath and movement to create harmony between body and mind. It’s especially powerful for releasing tension and cultivating self-awareness.

How to Get Started:

Start with beginner-friendly yoga videos or attend a local class.
Practice simple poses like Child’s Pose, Cat-Cow, or Downward Dog.
Pay attention to your breath. Inhale deeply as you stretch, and exhale fully as you release tension.
Aim for consistency—a few minutes daily can make a big difference.

3. Tai Chi for Flow and Grounding

Tai chi is a gentle martial art that focuses on slow, intentional movements. It’s excellent for grounding yourself and fostering inner peace.

How to Get Started:

Learn a simple sequence of movements, like “Grasp the Bird’s Tail” or “Wave Hands Like Clouds.”
Move slowly and focus on transitioning smoothly from one posture to the next.
Practice outdoors if possible—connecting with nature enhances the grounding effect.

Reclaiming Identity Through Movement

One of the most powerful aspects of mindful movement is how it helps us redefine who we are, free from societal expectations. When you move intentionally, you tap into your body’s innate wisdom and learn to trust yourself again.

For me, this process has been transformative. Through dance, I’ve reclaimed parts of my identity that were overshadowed by external pressures. I’ve found confidence in the sway of my hips, resilience in the stomp of my feet, and freedom in the rhythm of my heartbeat.

You, too, can use movement to reconnect with yourself. Whether it’s through dance, yoga, tai chi, or simply walking in nature, each step is a declaration: I am here. I am worthy. I am free.

Join the Move with Mysti Membership

If you’re ready to experience the healing power of movement in a supportive, inspiring community, I invite you to join the Move with Mysti Membership .

With Move with Mysti , you’ll enjoy:

Three live Pilates classes each week to strengthen your body and calm your mind.
Monthly personal development workshops to deepen your self-awareness and help you reconnect with your identity.
Community access to connect with like-minded individuals who value growth and authenticity.
Meditation and digital detox resources to help you find balance in a world that never stops moving.

Movement isn’t just about fitness—it’s about healing, growth, and freedom. Let’s move together in a way that honors who you are and the journey you’re on.

Click here to join Move with Mysti today and take the first step toward a more confident, connected, and resilient you.

Your Movement Challenge

I invite you to try this simple challenge:

Step 1: Choose one movement practice from the list above.
Step 2: Dedicate 15-20 minutes to it, at least three times this week.
Step 3: Journal about your experience. How did it feel to move? Did you notice any shifts in your mood, energy, or self-perception?

Healing Is in Your Hands

Movement isn’t just exercise—it’s medicine for the soul. It’s a way to reclaim your voice, rediscover your identity, and heal from the inside out.

So, take a moment to move today. Let your body guide you, let your spirit lead, and remember: every step, every pose, every rhythm is a celebration of who you are.

Because when you move, you heal.

Diversity, Equity and Inclusion is Wellness

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 03:39:10 GMT

Diversity, Equity and Inclusion is Wellness

Embracing diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) is essential for fostering wellness in our communities. At BlueGirlWellness, we believe that understanding and celebrating cultural differences enriches our lives and promotes collective well-being.

Relocating to Bangkok has profoundly impacted my health and peace of mind. The city's rich cultural tapestry—evident in its diverse communities, languages, and traditions—has provided me with a sense of belonging and safety. Experiencing various cultural practices, from Buddhist temples to Hindu shrines, mosques, and churches, has been both humbling and invigorating.

Experience Unique Bangkok

Growing up exposed to multiple cultures shaped my worldview, instilling respect, curiosity, and engagement. However, in the U.S., the lack of celebration for ethnic diversity often stifled open discussions about personal experiences and challenges faced by marginalized communities. This environment hindered my ability to thrive fully. In contrast, Thailand's acknowledgment of diverse cultural practices, such as providing prayer rooms for various faiths, exemplifies inclusivity.

So Much More to See

Diversity enhances our understanding of different pathways to well-being. Exposure to various cultures and perspectives enriches everyone, fostering self-awareness and empathy. Recognizing that essentials like food, water, shelter, education, safety, respect, and cultural expression are fundamental rights for all is crucial. Practicing humanity daily, both for ourselves and others, embodies true wellness.

In light of recent global shifts, such as the rollback of DEI programs in certain regions, it's imperative to reaffirm our commitment to inclusivity. Embracing diverse perspectives not only enriches our personal lives but also strengthens our communities.

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Join us at BlueGirlWellness in celebrating and promoting diversity, equity, and inclusion as pillars of holistic wellness. Together, we can create a world where everyone has the opportunity to thrive.

Wellness & AI

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:42:53 GMT

Wellness & AI

Wellness and AI: A Balancing Act

I recently completed a course on AI and its applications, and I have to admit—I’m fascinated! Watching the evolution of tools like ChatGPT and other AI-driven apps has been incredible. The pace of innovation is almost dizzying, and there’s this constant push to learn and integrate these tools into our lives.

As someone who loves to write, I’ve found AI helpful for tweaking and refining my content. But I often wonder: How are others using this technology? While its potential is groundbreaking, I can’t ignore my concern that relying too heavily on AI might diminish our natural creativity and problem-solving skills.

In my years of working in wellness, I’ve already seen the toll technology has taken on people—lack of movement, chronic pain from hours of sitting, and declining social skills, to name a few. These are issues we can’t afford to ignore.

That’s why I want to encourage a more intentional relationship with technology . For example, I used to wear an Apple Watch, but I let it go because I realized it was pulling my attention away from my body’s natural signals. Gadgets can be useful, but they often come at a cost: our awareness, focus, and intuition.

Here’s something to consider:

Schedule quiet time to reconnect with yourself. It strengthens clarity, concentration, and intuition.
Limit exposure to endless notifications, opinions, and content —it’s easy to lose touch with your own values and priorities when you’re constantly bombarded by others’.

Technology has undeniably brought us incredible advancements in health, education, and more. But let’s not forget where it all started: with human creativity, intelligence, and spirit.

To truly thrive in this digital age, we must balance the gifts of technology with nurturing our mind, body, and soul. After all, these are the foundations of who we are and the keys to living meaningful, fulfilling lives.

How are you balancing technology with intentional living? Share your thoughts—I’d love to hear!

Black in Southeast Asia

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 17:25:59 GMT

Black in Southeast Asia

Visiting Thailand in the past always felt like stepping into a different world—one that offered a sense of calm and normalcy I couldn’t quite explain. Thai people struck me as respectful and considerate, and now that I live here, that perception hasn’t changed. The cultural differences between Thailand and America are glaring, especially when it comes to race.

In the United States, I was constantly reminded of my skin color. Daily life was littered with microaggressions, systemic inequalities, and an unspoken understanding that I was seen as “less than.” The media, education system, healthcare, and even casual interactions served as constant reminders of these disparities. Speaking up about such treatment often led to gaslighting—being made to feel as though I was imagining things or overreacting.

Take healthcare, for example. The persistent myth that Black people are biologically different from others has deep roots in history. Medicine in the United States grew up alongside slavery, with the commodification of Black bodies requiring their dehumanization. For centuries, beliefs like Black people having a higher pain tolerance or literally having thicker skin have persisted—ideas that are not only scientifically baseless but also harmful. Shockingly, a recent study showed that many medical students still hold these misconceptions.

Similarly, in education, Black students in the U.S. are disproportionately subjected to harsher disciplinary measures than their peers. Studies show they are four times more likely to face suspension than White students. Such disparities perpetuate larger inequities in education and economic opportunities. Policies like zero-tolerance measures and heightened school security disproportionately target Black students, while alternatives such as restorative justice programs remain underutilized.

And these are just two examples. From housing discrimination to voter suppression to police violence, Black people in America face systemic challenges daily. The psychological toll of enduring such treatment is immense. Being dehumanized, having to justify my own existence, and witnessing the celebration of violence and oppression against my community was exhausting. I reached a breaking point where I realized I needed to leave the madness to protect my own well-being.

Living in Thailand has been like lifting a weight off my shoulders. I never sought special treatment—just the simple dignity of being treated like a human being. Here, I’ve experienced a sense of safety and respect that I longed for back in the U.S. It’s the little things: someone holding the elevator door when I’m rushing, acknowledging my presence when I enter a business, or simply being treated with kindness in everyday interactions. These small acts of humanity have had a profound impact on my mental and emotional health. For the first time in a long time, I can forget about the color of my skin and just be. This is a luxury I didn’t realize I craved until I experienced it. After spending most of my life in America, I now see how deeply the trauma of systemic racism has shaped my self-image, potential, and worldview. There’s a lot of healing ahead of me, but I’m ready to do the work.

Living here has given me the space to begin rebuilding my belief system and embracing a healthier, more fulfilling life. I feel encouraged, hopeful, and ready to dive into this new chapter with an open heart and mind.The body content of your post goes here. To edit this text, click on it and delete this default text and start typing your own or paste your own from a different source.

Community is Health

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 14:35:59 GMT

Community is Health

Community Improves Your Health

Before I left for Thailand, I made sure to forward my mail to a local address. Two weeks before my move, I filled out the necessary forms and handed them over at the post office. Yet, weeks after the move, only my husband’s mail was arriving at the new address.

Frustrated, I reached out to the realtor who sold our home to see if my mail was still being sent to the old address. He confirmed that the new homeowner had received ten pieces of my mail within the first week of moving in. To her credit, she had reached out to the other owners in the building, asking if anyone knew where to forward my mail. Yet, not a single person contacted me.

The new homeowner eventually took the mail back to the post office, hoping it would find its way to me.

This experience left me deeply disappointed—though, sadly, not surprised.

The Impact of a Missing Community

A major factor in my decision to leave the United States was the lack of community I experienced. I would hear from neighbors when something was needed from me or when there was an issue, but rarely—if ever—did I feel the warmth of a genuine, caring community.

Years ago, I emailed my building to warn my neighbors after someone attempted to break into my home in broad daylight. I included a video of the incident, hoping it might prompt dialogue or shared concern. Not a single person responded.

Experiences like these chipped away at my faith in the value of modern "community." I began to see the ripple effects of isolation, cynicism, and self-centeredness that seemed to grow stronger each year.

Why Community Matters

The community you live in isn’t just your address—it’s part of who you are. Even if you don’t see your neighbors every day, their actions (or inactions) affect you, just as yours affect them. Public health experts agree: strong communities lead to healthier individuals.

“Good community health equates to healthy people, as a community is the ecosystem or environment in which people live,” says Thomas G. Bognanno, president and CEO of Community Health Charities. “It’s difficult to be healthy personally if your community is unhealthy.”

This interconnectedness requires us to look beyond our own needs. “Strong community health requires residents to take collective responsibility,” says Caleb Backe, a health and wellness expert. It’s not just about healthcare systems—it’s about adopting healthy habits that benefit everyone.

When communities thrive, individuals thrive. Unfortunately, I’ve only ever caught glimpses of what this could look like, leaving me longing for something more meaningful.

A Path Forward: Building Community Through Movement

As I embark on a new chapter in Thailand, I’m inspired to create a space where people can reconnect—with themselves and with others. Community, after all, isn’t just about geography—it’s about shared experiences and mutual care.

This is why I created Move with Mysti, a program designed to foster both physical health and a sense of belonging. Through movement, mindfulness, and connection, we can begin to rebuild the bonds that so many of us are missing in our lives.

Whether you’re seeking to improve your physical health, reconnect with your inner self, or simply find a supportive group of like-minded individuals, Move with Mysti is here to help.

Join the Movement

If you’re tired of feeling isolated, overwhelmed, or out of balance, now is the time to take a step toward change.

Join Move with Mysti, where you’ll find live Pilates classes, wellness challenges, and a growing community that’s focused on connection and growth. Let’s work together to build a healthier, more connected future—starting with you.

Click the link below to learn more and sign up today.

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Make a Life.....Not a Living

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:29:14 GMT

Make a Life.....Not a Living

Making a life….not a Living

"Making a life, not a living" is a concept I first heard from the great Dr. Daniel Black on the Karen Hunter Show on SiriusXM. During the conversation, they explored the integrity—or lack thereof—behind how we choose to make a living. For me, I’ve always seen my job or career as a means to an end—a way to pay my mortgage, put food on the table, and indulge in my lifestyle. I’ve been fortunate enough to find work that I truly enjoyed, but even that wasn’t the whole story.

Making a life means creating space for myself to understand who I am, what I stand for, and what my values truly are. From a very early age, many of us are taught to tie our identity to what we do. One of the most common questions asked of children is, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Safe answers like “a doctor” or “a lawyer” often earn nods of approval or exclamations of “Wow!”—but such expectations can stifle imagination and shrink the realm of possibility. Making a life involves reclaiming that imagination and allowing ourselves to dream, create, and find purpose on our own terms.

Making a life also means nurturing relationships. Our connections with others open doors to parts of ourselves we didn’t know existed. Whether through a kind encounter with a stranger or a painful, gut-wrenching conflict with a family member, these interactions teach us how to process emotions and respond to the world around us. They serve as a mirror, showing us who we are and who we can become.

Making a life includes resting—taking the time to pause, travel, and experience the world. Meeting people from diverse backgrounds and genuinely learning about who they are has allowed me to reconnect with humanity in a world that often feels inhumane. These experiences also help me affirm my own humanity, reminding me of the beauty in shared stories and experiences.

Ultimately, making a life, not just a living , is about prioritizing growth as a person and embracing one’s humanity above all else. I admit, I’m an idealist—some might even call me delusional—but this perspective keeps me grounded. In a society where people are often devalued, choosing to value myself and my life feels like a revolutionary act.

Shape Shifting Identity

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 07:42:03 GMT

Identity is a First World Issue

I have always been the kind of person who values life outside of work. For me, work has always been a means to an end—a way to support the life I want to live. I was fortunate enough to find something I truly love to do for a living, and that’s been one of the greatest joys in my life. There’s a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment that comes from contributing to society through a skill or gift you genuinely enjoy.

Yet, living in the United States, I found myself constantly chasing the next milestone of success. There was a time when I got caught up in the motions of productivity—earning another certification, pursuing another degree—not because my heart was in it, but because I wanted to feel like I was enough. However, the environment I was in didn’t support that sense of enoughness.

I had unknowingly tied my identity to my job. This mindset wore me down. I felt an endless pressure to be more productive, more intelligent, more accomplished, and yet, I could never measure up to the expectations I placed on myself. Ironically, I worked with people who shared this same mentality—it wasn’t just me. It was the culture. In America, work often takes precedence over private life, and the connections between people can feel superficial or nonexistent. Even when there’s a desire for connection, it seems many don’t know how to foster it.

The realization hit me: to feel like a human being without needing to provide a service or perform is extraordinary. To simply be gives my soul rest and clarity. I began longing for that sense of peace, which led me to question who I was and what truly mattered to me.

It’s a privilege to ask, Who am I? The short time I’ve spent in Thailand has reminded me how lucky I am to even ponder such a question. Watching the streets of Bangkok is mesmerizing—there’s constant movement, a seamless rhythm of people navigating their lives. The city hums with energy, yet there’s no visible preoccupation with status or self-analysis. Life is being lived, not endlessly examined.

This contrast made me rethink identity. It struck me how limiting and unhealthy it is to cling to the idea of a fixed self—this notion of “This is who I am!” Identity, I’ve realized, is fluid and ever-changing. Being present in the moment transcends any label or role we assign ourselves. When we let go of rigid definitions of who we think we are, we create space to simply live, to connect, and to grow in ways we never imagined.

This journey has profoundly shaped my mission to help others reconnect with themselves, redefine

success, and live with greater intention. Through my coaching, online classes, and workshops, I guide individuals to break free from societal expectations and live life on their own terms. If this resonates with you, let’s connect! Together, we can explore how to create a more balanced, mindful, and meaningful life.

Making a Big Move

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 23:05:22 GMT

A journey of dreaming big & following through.

Welcome to My First Blog Post!

I’ve recently taken a bold step for my health and well-being—I’ve relocated to Thailand! Living here has been a dream of mine ever since my first visit in 2006, and now it’s finally a reality.

Back in 2005, I was completing my studies to become a massage therapist when I came across a flyer for Dr. Bob’s Thai Trip. It immediately sparked something in me. I’d always been fascinated by Thailand—its rich Buddhist culture, flavorful cuisine, and the allure of being on the other side of the world. I didn’t hesitate.

That trip turned out to be a life-changing experience. Thailand was my first major international adventure (aside from visiting the Caribbean), and I traveled with a group of people from across the United States, which was exactly the guidance I needed at the time.

Our journey began in Bangkok. Initially, I wasn’t impressed—it felt overwhelming with its traffic, crowds, and a side of the city I wasn’t prepared for. Fast forward to today, and I’ve grown to love Bangkok for its vibrant energy and endless possibilities.

The highlight of that trip, though, was Koh Samui, a laid-back island paradise that left me in awe. I embraced every moment—riding tuk-tuks, savoring street food, and even attending the famous Full Moon Party on Koh Phangan. To this day, those memories bring a smile to my face.

Why I Moved to Thailand

Living in the United States had begun to feel unnatural for me. The mass shootings, misinformation, celebrated violence, and political corruption created an environment that weighed heavily on my spirit. I yearned for community, connection, and consideration—values I’ve found to be deeply rooted in Thai culture.

While no place is perfect, Thailand has offered me a chance to rebuild my life in a way that aligns with my values. Here’s why I chose to make this move:

1. Culture

The Buddhist culture in Thailand is welcoming and nonjudgmental. I’ve always felt safe and accepted here. Thai people are renowned for their warm hospitality and eagerness to share their culture. This sense of acceptance and connection is something I deeply value.

2. Quality of Life

Thailand offers an affordable cost of living, making a fulfilling life accessible. From bustling cities to tranquil islands and scenic mountain towns, there’s a diversity here that I love. The infrastructure also makes it easy to explore every corner of the country.

3. Work-Life Balance

The slower pace of life in Thailand encourages mindfulness and appreciation for the present moment. Whether working remotely, starting a business, or pursuing passions, the lifestyle here promotes balance—a stark contrast to the constant hustle of Western life.

How This Ties Into My Business

Relocating to Thailand isn’t just about personal growth; it’s also about aligning my business with my values. Through Connected with Mysti, I aim to help others cultivate balance, connection, and mindfulness in their own lives.

Just as I’ve sought a life that feels more authentic and aligned, I want to support others in doing the same. Whether through movement, wellness practices, or fostering community, my mission is to empower you to reconnect with yourself and embrace life on your own terms.

This blog is where I’ll share my journey, insights, and reflections as I continue to build a life of connection and purpose. Thank you for joining me—I can’t wait to grow together!